Couples Therapy

You didn’t imagine your relationship would feel this distant, tense, or exhausting. Maybe you’re stuck in the same arguments that never really resolve. Maybe one of you shuts down while the other feels increasingly lonely or unheard. Or maybe life has simply taken over — work, parenting, stress — and the closeness you once had feels harder to access.

Most couples don’t come to therapy because they don’t care. They come because they do — and they don’t know how to get back to each other without things escalating or falling apart.

Doing the Work

We begin with the foundational pieces of a healthy marriage and partnership — communication, trust, respect, and commitment. These pillars create the safety needed to do deeper relational work and give us a shared framework to return to when things feel tense or unclear.

From there, couples therapy with me is collaborative, thoughtful, and direct. We focus on understanding the patterns you get caught in — how stress, nervous system responses, attachment needs, and learned behaviors show up between you, especially during moments of disconnection or conflict.

Rather than assigning blame, we explore:

• How each of you protects yourselves when things feel hard

• The beliefs and assumptions driving reactions

• The emotional and physical cues that escalate or shut things down

• How to communicate in ways that build understanding instead of defensiveness

I will gently challenge unhelpful thoughts and behaviors while helping you develop new ways of responding that support connection, repair, and trust.

A deeper, more focused option

Some couples benefit from accelerated therapy or intensive sessions, where we dedicate longer blocks of time to one specific area — communication breakdowns, recurring conflict, rebuilding trust, or reconnecting emotionally. These sessions allow us to move beyond weekly sessions and create real momentum through focused, intentional work.

We’ll talk together about whether this approach fits your goals and your relationship.

This work is a good fit if:

• You love each other and want to repair what feels strained

• You’re open to self-reflection and personal accountability

• You’re willing to be challenged with compassion

• You want more than surface-level communication tools

• You’re committed to creating lasting change together

Couples therapy works best when both partners show up engaged, curious, and willing to do the work — even when it’s uncomfortable.

Interested in working together?

I offer a free consultation to explore whether couples therapy with me is the right fit.